Firstly, to introduce myself, I’m Amanda Clark and a proud mum of two adult children. Brooke, 26 and Archie, 22. I took early retirement from teaching three years ago and we moved up to Kinross, Scotland in 2022- returning to my husband’s homeland. He now runs a small manufacturing business in Fife. We love it here.
We really should be ‘Empty Nesters’ – kids independent albeit physically- not necessarily financially…… A bit more disposable income and more time on our hands…we could go to the pub with friends, travel to those bucket list locations and take advantage of cheap last minute city breaks except we’re not TYPICAL EMPTY NESTERS.
Brooke has flown the nest but our lovely Archie has a severe to moderate learning disability, Autism and ADHD and if that wasn’t enough at the age of 16 he developed Epilepsy. Archie needs constant supervision, the right meds and 247 care. Like other brave, selfless Parent Carers we have made the momentous decision to keep him living at home with us for as long as we can.
Trouble is where as much as Archie is mentally disabled, he is very physically able full of energy and bounce! He’s our very own 22-year-old Tigger toddler. Archie thinks nothing of jogging round the Lochs, running flat out on Fife beaches and striding up the Lomond Hills- often with his panting aging parents in hot pursuit. We are fortunate that three days a week he goes up in a minibus to Corbenic Camphill near Dunkeld to the Daycentre. There they embrace the environment and often take him and his peers on six-mile hikes in the hills. Perfect for Archie during the day but sometimes I feel really trapped and depressed due to the lack of overnight cover for him.
I try not to get too jealous when our neighbours- with kids the same age set off in their camper van for three weeks touring Europe or my American cousins- both retired teachers- post endless pictures of their global tours.




